Dear HIB readers: My past mistakes have caught up with me...

From a female HIB reader

My story is a story from the heart. I was forced into marriage at the age of 15yrs to a man I never met and don't love. I tried so hard to love him, so hard but you could never force love. We had nothing in common. I'm a lively, fun and exciting human being. I never knew a woman can have orgasm till I started cheating on my hubby. I was frustrated,  depressed, angry with my life. After I had my 1st baby, I ran away but my dad brought me back. Same goes when I had my 2nd child. I wanted to kill my self because I was so unhappy. 

I started having an affair, from diff man to another, partying and having fun. Living my teenaged life that I was deprived hopping to find love nd also hopping my hubby will send me packing but he never did cos he afraid of ppl will say. 

 

To cut d story short. I was able to leave my hubby wit my kids  after 12 miserable life. Now i ve found love at last with a man that loves me so much. A man that that taught me all you need to be faithful woman is to be in love and to be loved. I can't imagine  any other man touching me I will rather die than let  it happen. I ve bin wit him for 7yrs and I ve bin with only him and no other.  He wants to marry me but his family and frids are against it. Said I will repeat same mistake I made in my 1st marriage wen I was young. How can I repeat my mistake at this my age knowing how much my man loves me. I don't want to loose this man, now am being given a chance to choose my past and mistakes has caught up with me. Am in turmoil. 

 

Pls If he was your brother or friend what advice would you give him. 

PS. Advice to parents, leave your children to make their choice on marriage. Give them the chance to fall in love. Give them the choice to make mistakes and to live their tennege life. 

I want to start  a foundation that say The choice Is Ours. 

Nobody have right to choose a partner for anybody no matter how old or young the person is.